“The Quit My Life” series tackles 9 topics of sabotage that I am in the process of conquering. I wanted to share my journey to my readers as maybe this suffering can help someone get out of their suffering.
I was a failure at building and maintaining relationships. Apparently, you need that skill set in order to network and grow a legacy built on loyalty, trust and love. I didn’t get that memo until early 2016 when my life crumbled under its last good leg. Though I was a failure at relationships most is my life, I somehow kept a place in people’s minds and hearts even long after my absence. Why is that? I am an honest, gentle, loving, intelligent, creative, funny, cute and adoring lady that everyone was cool with but that nobody really respected. I had credibility only when my hard work proved to top everyone’s effort. So why didn’t I respect myself more?
I always said what I wanted to do but hardly do what I always said. It’s not that I lied it’s just I let fear, doubt and indecisiveness control my every thought and move. Because of this ongoing self-sabotage I have let things and people most did to me fade away – while going about my normal routine. It was all learned behavior with growing up seeing multiple relationships fail and not having anyone around to teach me how to grow a foundation.
I became disappointed in myself so much that I couldn’t even get that angry when people disappointed me. No, that’s not the same thing as being taken advantage of. It had to take a lot of self-abuse to finally drop down to my knees, throw my hands up and want to go back to church. I have been led astray for so long without having any real standards. I wasn’t living at all to my potential so I decided to quit my life and start a new, better-equipped life. The life I deserve and the life I have always dreamed of.
Use my 5 steps to get a quick start on learning about your finances.
Here’s my 5 steps to developing financial literacy:
1. You must think you want to be financially-free. You already know you have a financial cancer so change your mindset.
2. Get out all your paperwork to see where the financial cancer is coming from.
3. Get educated by seeking financial advice. This education will probably be self-taught unless you know a financial advisor who can help you or take a class in financial management. Start off by reading “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” by Robert T. Kiyosaki.
4. Go back to your financial house records and start making adjustments.
5. Use the Law of Attraction to help you seek opportunities to increase your income, be debt free, be financially secure and change your mindset for good. This all changes your quality of life for the better.
Will you use these steps or started already? Let me know your experience in the comments!
Have some financial literacy steps that you personally use? Share them in the comments.
Facebook on Health and Wellness: We want to provide enhanced tools and resources to help those with suicidal thoughts get the help they need.
Recently, I came across a friend on Facebook that was posting their personal thoughts about their lives. Unfortunately, these negative thoughts started leading toward committing suicide. I didn’t think I could help other than offering my shoulder to “cry on”. But if you are not close to your online friends other than interacting with them via social platforms, how could you help them? Why would they even talk to you or listen to you?
I came across a valuable news article in the Epoch Times newspaper. Facebook will offer its users online resources and support to help suicidal individuals. This service was made of a new collaboration between Facebook and Forefront: Innovations in Suicide Prevention. Its an organization based in the University of Washington’s School of Social Work. Those who see suicidal posts can now report them to Facebook. Facebook will then tell you how you can help.
The Inner Workings of the System
When you see a post that suggests its author might consider suicide, you can click on a dropdown menu and report the post to Facebook. You’ll see a series of responses (those familiar with blocking people know it well) that asks you what you want to do. You can select the following options after selecting the appropriate topic:
• Send A Message to Author
• Contact Another Facebook Friend for Support
• Or Connect with a trained professional at a suicide helpline for guidance
Facebook reviews the reported post and offers support pop-up screens that automatically launches when the author logs back into the website. The screens ask them if they might want to receive help if they are still in distress. Coincidently, the responses link to a number of positive options such as videos from Now Matters Now. This program was started by Forefront research scientist Ursula Whiteside and it provides strategies and real-life accounts from real people who struggled with suicidal thoughts. It not only aims at suicidal people but to also educate and provide alternatives or guides for concerned friends or family members.
This is a step in the right direction for family and friends witnessing other family and friends on the edge and helping to cope with mental illness or disturbing life situations. No more do you have to stay quiet. Please call the suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for immediate intervention.
Source: “Facebook Adds Lifelines to Prevent Suicide” by Deborah Bach www.theepochtimes.com , March 13-19 2015.
What is behind The Room? We all have access to our own rooms of life. But we need help navigating to it or even getting the right set of keys.
You know what they say about doors – when one closes another opens.
But what if you already have the key and know the room number but just don’t know the floor?
That’s where it gets interesting. You become a detective and an adventurer trying different floors until you come to the right one.
I feel like that right now. I finally made it to the floor and I have the key in my hand and heading towards the room.
What’s in the room you say? The life that I want and need. Everything is exactly how it’s suppose to be leading up to this moment. Just a few more adjustments with turning the key and I’ll be in there.
Wish me luck while I make my own reservation with THE ROOM!
The last day of #MasterMyWebsites, day 7. What did I learn from this past week about myself?
Day 7: 2/16/15
Its Only The Beginning
Though this is the last day of my 7-day challenge, the mission is not finished. My challenge won’t be over until my website goals are completed. I had a health setback mixed with procrastination. No matter how you slice it, one has to always prepare for setbacks and disappointments.
Today was a good day though. I got a late start but managed to get a few things done.
I cleaned my room and did some laundry. I didn’t finish all my laundry as I had 5 loads, but cut it to 3 left. I also did some WordPress development on my client’s website, CurvesSouthOzonePark.com. It’s not much, but there’s only a handful of tasks left to complete before I can launch the website.
Still feeling week and dehydrated. Not drinking enough water although I’m drinking plenty of Crystal Light juice. I’m not eating as healthy as I should but I’m not eating big portions either. I’ve been mostly sleeping for the week.
Mostly satisfied today except for getting sick. I was definitely having a good time this weekend although plans got changed since I wasn’t feeling 100%. Once I get back into the groove later this week, I’ll have more energy and confidence to continue my challenge.
Complete my client’s website
Write posts for cutiedddgamer.com and delightfulcritics.tumblr.com
I did not complete my 7-day challenge. I realized I set an unrealistic goal for my usual lifestyle and ended up failing before I even start. However, its good to know your shortcomings. I still accept this challenge for the rest of the month – Saturday, February 28, 2015, to complete my web development project. I will still blog everyday about my progress. I learned that I have to be honest with myself and what I think I can handle. If I bite off more than I chew, it doesn’t go well when trying to talk and chew. I have to learn how to distinguish a reasonable goal versus a dream goal.
What are your thoughts on my 7-day challenge?
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I didn’t expect too much progress today since my Grandmother and fiancé came over. It was a family affair. Meanwhile I was still combating dehydration and lack of rest. I had some fun though and that counts.
The Day After
Sundays are always sluggish for me. I did manage to clean my room half way. Yay for progress! and this meant I was feeling a lot better. Still, I felt burdened with not being able to keep up with my 7-day challenge. I was sleeping a lot during the last 5 days and still not 100%.
What I learned/Value
While watching some movie or television show over the weekend, I came across a dilemma that involved one following their dreams no matter what? They were either striking out on their own or searching for a new career. Either way, they had enough with their current job situation. Someone asked me if I would leave my job and go back to private sector. I said, the only way I would go back to private sector is if I had my own business and I was working for myself. I will stay in public sector just until I can afford to strike out on my own with my empire.
In order to do this, I have to build up my empire and it starts with these websites. My health is improving again so there’s no need to shy away now. Full throttle ahead!
Day 5 Epilogue of #MasterMyWebsites 7-day Challenge.
What do I hope to accomplish today? Any progress is better then no progress. Any finished task brings me closer to my goals. If I keep moving then I’ll get to the finish line or at least hit the markers mapping out the course.
Yesterday morning while getting ready for work I nearly fainted coming out of the shower. I sat on my bed to collect myself and realized I was abnormally shaking. I had to go to the emergency room.
All this week my health has been deteriorating. Fatigue, lightheadedness and lack of energy plagued me. While in the emergency room, I took 4 tests and the doctors found nothing wrong except for a slight high reading for blood pressure.
The physician told me that I was most likely dehydrated and have a minor iron deficiency. That makes a lot of sense because I haven’t been eating my usual 3 meals a day and not drinking enough water. I was told to get plenty of rest and take the next day off, which meant I have a total of 5 days off. However, yesterday was like a workday since I was in that hospital for 8.5 hours.