Facebook and Mental Wellness

Facebook on Health and Wellness: We want to provide enhanced tools and resources to help those with suicidal thoughts get the help they need.

Recently, I came across a friend on Facebook that was posting their personal thoughts about their lives. Unfortunately, these negative thoughts started leading toward committing suicide. I didn’t think I could help other than offering my shoulder to “cry on”. But if you are not close to your online friends other than interacting with them via social platforms, how could you help them? Why would they even talk to you or listen to you?
I came across a valuable news article in the Epoch Times newspaper. Facebook will offer its users online resources and support to help suicidal individuals. This service was made of a new collaboration between Facebook and Forefront: Innovations in Suicide Prevention. Its an organization based in the University of Washington’s School of Social Work. Those who see suicidal posts can now report them to Facebook. Facebook will then tell you how you can help.


The Inner Workings of the System

When you see a post that suggests its author might consider suicide, you can click on a dropdown menu and report the post to Facebook. You’ll see a series of responses (those familiar with blocking people know it well) that asks you what you want to do. You can select the following options after selecting the appropriate topic:

• Send A Message to Author
• Contact Another Facebook Friend for Support
• Or Connect with a trained professional at a suicide helpline for guidance


Facebook reviews the reported post and offers support pop-up screens that automatically launches when the author logs back into the website. The screens ask them if they might want to receive help if they are still in distress. Coincidently, the responses link to a number of positive options such as videos from Now Matters Now. This program was started by Forefront research scientist Ursula Whiteside and it provides strategies and real-life accounts from real people who struggled with suicidal thoughts. It not only aims at suicidal people but to also educate and provide alternatives or guides for concerned friends or family members.


This is a step in the right direction for family and friends witnessing other family and friends on the edge and helping to cope with mental illness or disturbing life situations. No more do you have to stay quiet. Please call the suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for immediate intervention.


Source: “Facebook Adds Lifelines to Prevent Suicide” by Deborah Bach www.theepochtimes.com , March 13-19 2015.

#MasterMyWebsites Day 1 Epilogue

Mastering my websites, Day 1 Epilogue

So far Day 1 has been unexpected yet enlightening. My EAP appointment went well even though my physical health went downhill as the day went on.

I feel like its a setback because the time I thought I would have to spend on my project wasn’t there at all. Getting home took longer than expected and it took a lot out of me.  My performance suffered and I feel like a failure. To me,  its just yet another sabotage although time is something no one can control. I have unnecessary baggage.

I’ll keep writing everyday my challenge entries to keep my readers up to date. A full Day 1 entry about today is coming tomorrow.

Change is good, “BUT” is no excuse

Time to toss New Year’s Resolutions out the ballroom and “Vice-Shame” your way to success.

New Year’s Resolutions never worked for me because I never gave it any power; never any thought; didn’t take it seriously. Perhaps there’s an alternative way of making public my resolutions and sticking to them – by making public my faults I want to change. I’ll call it “vice-shaming”.

I suffer from compulsive behaviors and extraordinary procrastination. I believe the procrastination is due to depression, which seems to be more of the case since after I graduated college and around the time I started building and trying to launch my websites. Anyone who suffers from depression knows how it feels when you try to set goals and to-do lists only to see none of it done, and you taking a beating because you feel you can’t live up to the most simple things. Depression leaks into everything you are and do. You might have it so long that it becomes normal practice not to feel like doing anything because you have lost your drive to even try. I can’t even call it “trying” anymore when I map out what I want to do with my life because I am always self-sabotaging my efforts.

In this extraordinary case, what does a person do when most of their efforts are self-sabotaging? Perhaps by “Vice-shaming”, they can start to see the areas they need to work on. Here’s how it goes:

A typical New Year’s Resolution: I want to lose or will lose 10 pounds. 

Assigning a realistic goal:  “I will lose 10 pounds by July 2015 or 2 pounds a month by: cutting back 1500 calories a week and doing 30 minutes of exercise 3 times a week.”

Vice-Shaming: “Eating 2 cups of ice cream before I go to bed gives me a headache in the morning. I don’t like nor want a headache to start off my day anymore.” 

Solution: “Maybe a half an apple can satisfy my taste for something.”

With the Vice-Shaming, you didn’t persecute yourself into making a change. You acknowledged a behavior and then said you don’t want to repeat it because it made you feel a certain way. As you acknowledge behaviors and observe how they make you and others feel around you, then you start to change from the inside out. 

It’s always about feeling good about YOU. When YOU feel good and happy, others will want to be around you more often and they get that energy and feel good too. Now you’ll be SPREADING the good feelings all over the place. Therefore, change is good!

Treating PTSD in War Veterans with Less Drugs and More Therapeutic Treatments

Alternative Treatments to PSTD for War Veterans are becoming more and more successful rather than some traditional treatments including drug regimens.

Asking For Help

It’s hard for anyone to admit that they need therapy let alone war veterans. If you want to progress with success, ditch the “not-working” methods with fresh new experiments. You won’t know what works for you unless you try them all. Not referring to drugs. More drugs are never a good thing no matter who prescribes it.

Some alternative treatments that war veterans and others with brain injuries are using are:

  • Hikes
  • Scuba Diving
  • Horseback Riding
  • Yoga
  • Dance
  • Drama
  • Companion Dogs
  • Tai Chi
  • Fish-oil Supplements
  • High-Pressure Oxygen
  • Brain-Wave optimization technology (by Brain State Technologies)
  • Mindfulness-based stress reduction
  • BattleTap

The pressure is on the Department of Veterans Affairs to inform all veterans of available alternative treatments and therapeutic activities and to expand the range of treatments for those who don’t want nor can afford to rely on a regimen of drugs.

PTSD or Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome is an anxiety disorder caused by traumatic events, which can trigger nightmares, behavioral problems, emotional numbness, and extreme vigilance to perceived threats. PTSD is most common in war veterans but it is not limited to just this group. Those that experience trauma on a frequent basis such as domestic violence, abuse, bullying, extreme violence, extreme intolerance, can have PTSD. It is important to understand and to look out for symptoms associated with this disorder.

Through a recent study by the Federal Institute of Medicine, the Defense Department’s PTSD management program and VA’s program to screen, diagnose or treat PTSD were not using the best practices. They were poor or mediocre at best, only proving that traditional PTSD treatments are not working on a large-scale.

There are some other treatments that have been admired in treating PTSD:

  • eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, or EMDR
  • Cognitive-behavioral therapy


Help Is On The Way

Legislation from Mr. Ryan and Rep. Rich Nugent (R., Fla.), has been introduced to create 10 centers across the U.S. offering pilot programs complementary and alternative mental-health treatment and pain management. Though the bill hasn’t reached the House floor as of yet.

For more information about organizations offering alternative therapy to treat PTSD, please visit the following links:


Source WSJ Online

Are you a war veteran, suffer from brain injuries or know war veterans or brain injured patients? If so, what treatments (if you don’t mind sharing) are you using and how are they working for you? Let me know in the comment area, send me a tweet at @QAThornton or reply to this post on Facebook or Google+!

Self-Sabotage: How Not to Go That Road Again

The You Laws: What does it mean to self-sabotage and how can I set my mind into overcoming the behavior? Ryan Rivera of CalmClinic.com gives us 5 steps to not go down that road again.

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“Self-Sabotage: How Not To Go That Road Again” is written by guest blogger, Ryan Rivera of CalmClinic.com.

You are finally taking fitness seriously. You are watching what you eat. You are working out. It has been weeks. You are doing good. Yet, for no apparent reason, you slipped. You are back to bingeing carbs and sugar treats like there is no tomorrow. What happened? You were on track. You were doing it. Is it lack of inspiration? Is the stress and pressure of losing weight getting to you? Or are you just sabotaging yourself? Yes, self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage is defined as interfering and creating problems as you work on your long-standing goals. It’s like secretly telling yourself to make sure it does not happen. So you go down the old path thinking it’s where you belong and where you should be.

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You could be telling yourself that it’s okay not to achieve your aim because this isn’t the first time anyway. You are so used to failing that not succeeding towards being healthy and fit is nothing new. This is sad. You have to admit that it is. You also have to admit that this is a problem – a serious problem that needs to be dealt with before you create a pattern of self-sabotage behavior.

Always remember the following as you set your mind in doing something remarkable:

1. Commit. Finish what you have started no matter how tough it has become. The sense of accomplishment is beyond compare, and it will give you a newfound confidence.

2. Do it slowly but surely. Set a workable timeframe. Also consider adding some room for adjustment. Be flexible as you go about accomplishing your goal. Routine is good, but life is unpredictable. Adapt and make changes along the way. Do not be overwhelmed. Take what you can. Do not be over eager and over excited to go beyond what you can do at a time. Focus on one thing and do amazing on it rather than take on so many things and have mediocre results.

3. Do it for you. When you live your life wanting to please other people, you will never be happy. Some people set so high standards that they themselves could not fulfill. When you do fulfill something, it is never enough for them. They will always find something to say against you. So if you want to accomplish something, make sure that it is what you want. Go for it without having to think about what other people might say.

4. Do not be too critical of yourself. Give yourself some room to breathe. No one is perfect. Failures are part of human existence, but it shouldn’t stop you from trying again and again. Remember that the lessons in our failures make us better people. Accept setbacks but don’t let it stop you. Just because you didn’t get what you wanted doesn’t mean there wouldn’t be a next time. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be that time. Maybe what’s coming is the opportunity you have waited for.

5. Have a back-up plan. When we are set to do something important, we wish it would turn out as planned; however, it doesn’t always turn out that way. Do not blame yourself or other people though. Instead, trigger the back-up plan. Every plan should have a back-up so that no time is wasted. You get to continue until you finally get the results you wanted. Pursue and persevere.

It is always tough and nerve-wracking to take on a challenge that is life-changing, but we need to take on challenges so we get to live our life to the fullest. We are not meant to live idly on this world. We are meant to do great things, and the greatness should start from you so that it would resonate to the rest of us.

First Miniature Human Brain Grown – Not Playing God

The first miniature human brain grown in a laboratory is making headlines around the world some not for the actual achievement of growing a brain.

One might assume that this would be “playing god” but I beg to differ. Although we all “play god” when we judge each other, kill each other, destroy each other in every way possible. But we also are kind to each other, love each other and create with each other in every way possible.

On to the story…

The human brain grown in a lab by Austrian researchers is equal to the size and development of a 9-week old fetus. Since no oxygen and blood were constantly fed to the mini brain, it didn’t grow pass that nor did it have multiple functions that a brain usually has. This experience is a wonderful step in the right direction for researching mental health and neurological disorders. We need to be putting money into this to better understand the brain because the brain controls everything – our thoughts, our behaviors, our chemicals that cause emotions.

So before you start judging, as a species, we were born with brains that could keep learning and to keep growing as a living creature. If we have the ability to research and learn to improve humanity, then why not use it? Of course, if you’re using research to improve the destruction of humanity and nature, then I’d say you’re not using your gifts properly and you need to be checked.

Important: Before voting and commenting in the poll below, be mindful and respectful of your comments towards others and have some self-respect with presenting your opinions.

The Day My Depression Went Away

The Day My Depression Flew Away – How I Overcame My Massive Depressive State.

After watching a documentary about emotions and how they have an effect on our lifestyles, I began to think about depression and its lingering to hold on to a person for a long period of time. Since I was 16 years old, I felt fully aware that there was something wrong with my mental state and it was causing me to have massive amounts of weight gain. Realizing that my efforts to talk to my relatives about this was not working, I immediately sought counseling in my high school. Once to twice a week I would pour out my emotional baggage and it felt so good. Before, I used to write poetry. During counseling sessions, I was told to keep an emotional diary, for when I didn’t have sessions. Both the poetry and diary helped me in ways I couldn’t have ever imagined and of course the counseling helped a lot too.

Pinpointing The Problem

I felt that I could overcome what ails me in my journey, however, I still was not sure about what exactly ailed me. It’s really hard to pinpoint the exact something that makes you depressed or sad. I tried the best I could to keep the diary and talk what caused my emotions to go sour. I am usually a happy person but there are some people who are on the extreme sides of emotions. When I’m happy, I’m really happy. When I’m sad, I’m really depressed. People are really alarmed when I am sad because I am not sad often. I could hide it extremely well from people. I was that person and I started to believe my own lies when it came to my emotional state.

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Turning the “off” Button Technique

I’m here to tell you that tuning people out is not at all a bad thing.

Some say that being in your own little world during conversations or shopping with a relative is a bad thing. I’m here to tell you that tuning people out is not at all a bad thing. Learn from your kids, parents or co-workers – turning the “off” button really does give you some piece of mind. 

Along with privacy, people need to have silence once in a while. It helps you to think about the next planning phase, what your priorities are or helps you meditate. Silence comes with a peaceful state. When your mental state is silenced, an overwhelming calmness appears. Only then are you able to deal with the drama at hand. 

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