Facebook and Mental Wellness

Facebook on Health and Wellness: We want to provide enhanced tools and resources to help those with suicidal thoughts get the help they need.

Recently, I came across a friend on Facebook that was posting their personal thoughts about their lives. Unfortunately, these negative thoughts started leading toward committing suicide. I didn’t think I could help other than offering my shoulder to “cry on”. But if you are not close to your online friends other than interacting with them via social platforms, how could you help them? Why would they even talk to you or listen to you?
I came across a valuable news article in the Epoch Times newspaper. Facebook will offer its users online resources and support to help suicidal individuals. This service was made of a new collaboration between Facebook and Forefront: Innovations in Suicide Prevention. Its an organization based in the University of Washington’s School of Social Work. Those who see suicidal posts can now report them to Facebook. Facebook will then tell you how you can help.


The Inner Workings of the System

When you see a post that suggests its author might consider suicide, you can click on a dropdown menu and report the post to Facebook. You’ll see a series of responses (those familiar with blocking people know it well) that asks you what you want to do. You can select the following options after selecting the appropriate topic:

• Send A Message to Author
• Contact Another Facebook Friend for Support
• Or Connect with a trained professional at a suicide helpline for guidance


Facebook reviews the reported post and offers support pop-up screens that automatically launches when the author logs back into the website. The screens ask them if they might want to receive help if they are still in distress. Coincidently, the responses link to a number of positive options such as videos from Now Matters Now. This program was started by Forefront research scientist Ursula Whiteside and it provides strategies and real-life accounts from real people who struggled with suicidal thoughts. It not only aims at suicidal people but to also educate and provide alternatives or guides for concerned friends or family members.


This is a step in the right direction for family and friends witnessing other family and friends on the edge and helping to cope with mental illness or disturbing life situations. No more do you have to stay quiet. Please call the suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for immediate intervention.


Source: “Facebook Adds Lifelines to Prevent Suicide” by Deborah Bach www.theepochtimes.com , March 13-19 2015.

Change is good, “BUT” is no excuse

Time to toss New Year’s Resolutions out the ballroom and “Vice-Shame” your way to success.

New Year’s Resolutions never worked for me because I never gave it any power; never any thought; didn’t take it seriously. Perhaps there’s an alternative way of making public my resolutions and sticking to them – by making public my faults I want to change. I’ll call it “vice-shaming”.

I suffer from compulsive behaviors and extraordinary procrastination. I believe the procrastination is due to depression, which seems to be more of the case since after I graduated college and around the time I started building and trying to launch my websites. Anyone who suffers from depression knows how it feels when you try to set goals and to-do lists only to see none of it done, and you taking a beating because you feel you can’t live up to the most simple things. Depression leaks into everything you are and do. You might have it so long that it becomes normal practice not to feel like doing anything because you have lost your drive to even try. I can’t even call it “trying” anymore when I map out what I want to do with my life because I am always self-sabotaging my efforts.

In this extraordinary case, what does a person do when most of their efforts are self-sabotaging? Perhaps by “Vice-shaming”, they can start to see the areas they need to work on. Here’s how it goes:

A typical New Year’s Resolution: I want to lose or will lose 10 pounds. 

Assigning a realistic goal:  “I will lose 10 pounds by July 2015 or 2 pounds a month by: cutting back 1500 calories a week and doing 30 minutes of exercise 3 times a week.”

Vice-Shaming: “Eating 2 cups of ice cream before I go to bed gives me a headache in the morning. I don’t like nor want a headache to start off my day anymore.” 

Solution: “Maybe a half an apple can satisfy my taste for something.”

With the Vice-Shaming, you didn’t persecute yourself into making a change. You acknowledged a behavior and then said you don’t want to repeat it because it made you feel a certain way. As you acknowledge behaviors and observe how they make you and others feel around you, then you start to change from the inside out. 

It’s always about feeling good about YOU. When YOU feel good and happy, others will want to be around you more often and they get that energy and feel good too. Now you’ll be SPREADING the good feelings all over the place. Therefore, change is good!

My New Years Resolutions – #TeamQuaisha in 2014

The Struggle is Real #TeamQuaisha – My New Years Resolutions for 2014

Overall I am declaring a #teamQuaisha year. I am to conquer my mental health and physical health issues because I am battling depression, anxiety and other negative thoughts.

I have to change this year because there’s only one way to go and that’s up. I’ve been at the bottom and feeling the lowest and there’s no more levels to fall back down to. I’m starting on the steps and going straight up to the top.

My specific new years resolutions are to:

  • Cut down on negative thoughts by 80 % and focus on my dreams of being a business owner..
  • Learn how to edit video because I plan to do more video blogging and streaming gameplay
  • Continue with my curves gym meal plans to learn how to eat portions
  • Get in more exercise everyday not just the 30 mins at the gym
  • Hug more people in random conversations
  • Meditate daily because that increases positively, elevate stress and improve brain functions. And I need to improve patient to deal more with stupid clients and customers for my business.
  • And the last because I can continue to list more but at this point no one will give a damn, a Wii U, PS4, XBox One, PS Vita, Steam machine, Roku, Ouya, Gaming rig, video equipment and a new apartment to fit all that shit in.
  • I even made a chart called “my accountability” where I mark different aspects of my life that I am improving day by day. And for $5.00 I can give you a copy because I’m poor and I need to eat.

The struggle is real

Truth: I Am A Woman And Also A Person

Women are people too but rape is wrong for everyone.

While checking out the freshly pressed articles on wordpress.com, I read the title I Am Not Your Wife, Sister or Daughter. I Am A Person.. and it intrigued me so naturally I clicked on it.

The Belle Jar by Anne Theriault shared her personal opinion about the recent sexual assault and rape in Steubenville stating that the two teenagers convicted of raping a sixteen year old girl, sentenced to a combined three years in juvenile prison, “is a fucking joke”. And rightly so because this is the rape culture that social media is at the forefront spinning its various “truths” yet not a single “truth” was given.

She goes on to state a truth that all of us need to read:

This rape, and any rape, was wrong because women are people. Women are people, rape is wrong, and no one should ever be raped. End of story.

Even in 2013, a women’s value is only measured by what she can offer in a relationship or who they belong to. Of course if you say it like that, it seems archaic doesn’t it? But we live by that rhetoric daily and all over the world. Anne simply says “Women are not possessions. Women are people.”

She also details why the rhetoric is so bad:

For one thing, what does it say about the women who aren’t anyone’s wife, mother or daughter? That they deserve to be raped? …That they are not worthy of protection? That they are not deserving of sympathy, empathy or love?


What we need to teach to every person, regardless of sex, race, religion, status, age, sexuality, education, or home, is that they are loved, honored and valued because of who they are and that they should have a merit system for every action they take. Then can you treat others with the integrity and respect you were taught.